Main Character Style Energy
Not many people would feel the need to announce their aesthetic change formally in a blog post. However, I am a style blogger, so I thought it was fitting. Equally, most people don’t change their aesthetics overnight. Unless you’re Taylor Swift, who has a new aesthetic every album. But I wouldn’t call her most people and I don’t think you would either.
It really did happen pretty much overnight though. With the new year, I began to get more responsibilities at work. This time felt like I could actually handle them: that I was capable and competent and experienced, and that the changes made sense for my career. This was different than in many of my jobs since 2019, where I was a little bit more out of my element. But I feel so at home in the women-led company I now work for.
Luka is also becoming more independent. Don’t get me wrong, I will always be mama bear and he will always need me (especially at night). But it does feel like he’s changing as well in really big ways, almost everyday.
My ethical cottage core closet and I had a great run. Five years almost, because it was during the pandemic that I wrote this piece. It made so much sense while working from home, then being a new mom, and even brought comfort as I reentered the workforce. I felt connected to those past, and the community I built online to buy, sell and trade items, has led to real friendships. And then, we moved to Halifax, to this house in the trees by a lake and my dad’s cottage garden. What could be more perfect than linen dresses and chunky sweaters?
And it was. Till it wasn’t.
2025 Megan is craving more refinement, a classy, womanly silhouette and smoother fabrics. I have a physical aversion to overly fussy pattern mixing and too many layers. I have endlessly pinned outfits from Kate Middleton and Miranda Kerr- soft coloured blazers and sleek midi dresses, leather pumps and fitted jeans (no rips, ever!)
I’m stepping into this change with a bit of trepidation- I hate making mistakes, even if they’re style mistakes- but I think it change will bring me the confidence I need as my professional and personal life shift.
Ethical sourcing is still important to me, but, as always, I am holding those “rules” loosely and giving myself a lot of grace.
So much of my style journey for the past year has been supported by the work of Rita and The Style Key. In her system, I identify as a Moonstone, and one of the archetypes in that quadrant is the Main Character. Rita writes, “Learn to connect with your own needs. What season of life are you moving through?… Let go of a previous aesthetic if it no longer serves you, even though it did work in the past.”
This resonates SO strongly with me. I feel such a powerful need for my style to reflect my season of life and the situations I’m in. When it doesn’t, there’s a dissonance that feels overwhelming. It’s been liberating to realize this, and that style is self-care that I deserve to focus on, experiment with, and get right.
What situations and life changes are you moving through? Is style an important part of those shifts for you? Do you dress for the life you have, the life you want, or a mix? I’d love to know!
